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Pregnancy & College

By Madison Goodgame

©Yale Medicine

This is an opinion column.

When I first started senior year, I had no clue that I would be where I am now. I pictured myself graduating, moving far away and getting a job within my field.

Life had something else in mind. On August 24th of fall semester, I found out that I was 8 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I was unprepared for this news but also knew that I made the decisions that lead me to this outcome. I have had a steady partner for almost two years now, so I at least had him to turn to for support. My head was spinning with all different sorts of questions and I had no clue what was in store.

I called my mom right after I told my significant other and we went over my options. My mom and I both being pro choice, the decision was ultimately up to what I wanted to do and what I felt ready for.

After visiting a clinic, I could not bring myself to go through with abortion. I wasn’t stuck. I had resources, steady support to lean on and an extremely loving boyfriend.

Telling my friends wasn’t an option yet because I was still skeptical of everyone’s reaction.

I wanted to be sure that I was done going out for a drink or partying before I committed to something like this. So, I waited around and did pretty much nothing except for school and work up until I was done with my first trimester.

At twelve weeks, I began telling a couple of people that were close to me just so that I could get a feel for how other people were going to react.

To this day, I cannot bring myself to tell my grandparents and I am 19 weeks pregnant, which is about five months. I am so nervous about how they are going to react because of their generation, so I am waiting until after I graduate on December 12th.

My last semester of college while juggling this news, the pandemic, a full time job, and 18 hours of class has been nothing short of stressful.

I find myself wanting to give up or crying just about every other day, but I know that it will all pay off. In April of 2021, I will give birth to a beautiful baby girl and hopefully be on salary in a desired position by then.

I never thought that I would be having a child so young but here I am. My best friend got pregnant in high school at age 16 and I thought that was young. I am now 22 years old, and still don’t have anything figured out.

I do know that this journey is going to be tough but I will do anything in my power to make sure that my little girl has a bright future. If you are going through something similar, hang in there.

Luckily, I never got any morning sickness, but I get so tired after work that I am barely able to log onto Zoom for my classes. My professors have been amazing this semester so that has helped me out a lot.

I made sure to get a full time job with benefits so that I will have my own insurance that isn’t through my mom because this is not her responsibility. My boyfriend and I also just moved out of our tiny apartment into a 3 bedroom house in Birmingham.

I am telling you these things to let you know, anything is possible. In just a little over a month, I will be a graduate of UAB with a bachelors in communications and I could not be happier or more proud of myself.

Edited By John H. Glenn

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